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Friday, March 20, 2015

Relationships: Things I've Learned

Since I started law school, I've learned a lot about myself.  I've discovered more about the type of person I am and more importantly, the type of person I want to be.  I know it's no secret but I will still point out that who you are will depend greatly on the people around you.  So when I say "relationships," I am not only talking about intimate relationships.  I am talking about all the interactions we have on a day-to-day basis.  We can't always choose the people around us, but we can decide how and how much we interact with that person.  Making smarter decisions when it comes to the people around you will help you become a much happier, and hopefully a better version of yourself.

1. It is okay to stop caring about people who don't care about you.  Consider it cleansing.
For whatever reason, this has probably been one of the hardest concepts for me.  I was raised to treat people with respect and I strive to do that for the most part.  There is, however, a fine line between treating someone with respect and living to please that person.  Respect is earned.  So if a person cannot show you the respect that you deserve, it really doesn't make sense for you to continue to go out of your way for that person.  This doesn't mean that you should deliberately be rude to them ... it just means that you have to recognize when the time comes to put yourself first.  You don't have to feel bad about ignoring their calls/texts or not actively seeking to be a part of their life.  You cannot feel bad for treating people the way that they treat you.  

2. Just because someone loves you, doesn't mean they know how to love you.
This is also a big one.  Sometimes I tend to let a lot of things slide in relationships because I know that somewhere, deep down, the other person really loves me and cares about me.  I had to realize that although this is important, I cannot use this fact to justify anything that happens in that relationship.  If someone is constantly hurting me, eventually it will not matter how much that person loves me.  If they cannot figure out how to manifest that love in a way that is not detrimental to my being, then that is not the love for me.  It is kind of like separating a person's intent from the result.  They might mean well, but if they cannot do well ... what difference does it make in the end?

3. Forgiveness doesn't make you weak.  Sometimes it opens the door to a newer, better relationship.
I do not want this to become a post about how to cut people out of your life.  I do believe that cutting people out of your life is a valuable skill and often times takes a lot of strength but sometimes, allowing people to re-enter your life can be just as valuable.  Sometimes people do things to us that may seem unforgivable. Personally, I don't really believe there is anything that anyone can do to us that is truly unforgivable (besides like, murder or something).  Forgiveness is a personal decision and although not everyone who hurts us deserves forgiveness, sometimes it is for the best.  I have personally reconnected with people who I never thought I would speak to again and I am honestly so glad that I have.  People change and a lot of times your past negative experiences with a person can lead to a much healthier relationship in the long run.  There is a different kind of strength that comes along with rebuilding a relationship that you thought was beyond repair.  It teaches you to appreciate that person more and in a strange way, it brings hope back into your life.  One of my most transparent friendships right now exists with someone who I hated just three years ago.   But because of what we've been through, I almost feel like I can tell him anything ... that is priceless.  Of course, only you can decide when you're ready to give someone another chance.  I guess my point is that sometimes other people in your life will discourage you from venturing into these new/old/revamped relationships (with good reason).  But if you proceed with caution and keep an open mind, you'll be surprised at the blessings that may be awaiting you on the other side.

Tuesday, March 10, 2015

Santa Monica Sunshine

Swimsuit Top: Victorias Secret,  Shorts: Garage (Similar : Urban Outfitters), Bag: Longchamp

I'm on Spring Break so my sister and friend are visiting me from Toronto.  It's my friend's first time in  LA so we are doing all the fun touristy things ... like Santa Monica Pier and Third Street Promenade! The weather this week has been more than cooperative so I'm glad that they're actually able to enjoy the Cali sunshine. We mostly just walked around and ate good food ... you know, typical stuff.  We ate dinner at Locanda Del Lago and it was pretty good.  I ordered the tuna tartare and although I didn't appreciate it paired with the plantain chips, separately I was content.  Stay tuned for the rest of our trip lol ... 

Wednesday, March 4, 2015

Vegas Style

 Sweatshirt: Forever 21, Jeans: American Eagle, Booties: Forever 21, Bag: Louis Vuitton

I flew to Vegas for about 8 hours today to handle some business. I'm currently back in the LA airport waiting on my sister to arrive because we're just days away from law school spring break !!!! Anyway, I thought I would share what I wore on my short little trip! Super casual and AFFORDABLE outfit. I know a lot of us are at that stage where Forever 21 clothing is no longer appealing ... but somewhere in the midst of all the obnoxiously see-through blouses and strange printed pants, are some pretty basic items that can easily be incorporated into your slightly more "grown up" wardrobe.  Hope you enjoy!

Wednesday, February 25, 2015

Music ... Thursdays ?

I love Spotify. I think it's a great way to discover new music and I truly appreciate all of their playlists.  I'm probably late with a lot of my music finds (law school can do that to you,) but I thought I would share one particular song that I'm really feeling at the moment.  It's Ariana Grande- One Last Time. I don't even know why but this song really resonates with me. Even though she gets a lot of hate, Ariana has an incredible voice and that is not up for debate. Further, I feel a lot of people can relate to some of the lyrics ... 

"I don't deserve it; I know I don't deserve it. But stay with me a minute ... I swear I'll make it worth it. Can't you forgive me, at least just temporarily? I know that this is my fault. I should have been more careful."

While we're add it. Here are a few more Spotify songs that I am loving at the moment:

Fifth Harmony- Boss; Sia- Elastic Hearts, Pitbull- Time Of My Life

Sunday, February 8, 2015

Girl's Night

Crop Top: The Area; Skirt: LF Stores; Shoes: Zara; Clutch: Aldo

I apologize for the poor quality.  I didn't exactly plan on doing an outfit post that night so I really only took Instagram appropriate selfies lol.  But then I thought after the fact, why not share a "going out" post with you guys.  That could be fun, right?  So here it is.  This past weekend, I took a break from working on my article for my law school journal and went out with some friends.  It was a really fun and much needed break from legal research!  My favorite part of this outfit is the skirt.  I don't really shop at LF often but anytime I've gone in there I've found something that I love!  Like, remember the time I found this sweater there?  So yea, if ever you're in LA, I would recommend checking that store out. As a matter of fact, I need to go back!

Tuesday, February 3, 2015

Get It Right? Get It Tight?

Summer bodies are built in the winter; at least that's what someone told me. So I've been working pretty hard lately to build my dream summer body. Now, I'm not going to advocate being envious of someone else's body. We should all be happy with what we have and appreciate the way that God made us. However, I do think that if you want to tone up or shape your body, it's okay to draw inspiration from someone else. I follow a couple of fitness personalities on Instagram but my favorite person to follow is KatyaEliseHenry. I will post a few of her photos below. I think she has a great body (big butt and toned stomach). I like to follow her page because she's also about 5'2 and 108 lbs which is really similar to my natural build. I think it's important to be realistic about your fitness goals and so if you are going to use someone else as your daily inspiration, they should probably have a body type similar to yours anyway. To achieve my goals I've mostly been doing a variety of glute exercises (lunges, squats, donkey kicks, pelvic thrusts) and some ab workouts (planking, crunches etc.)
Following my workout I try to incorporate some protein into my diet because it helps to build lean muscle mass and it also helps you heal faster so that you can get back in that weight room ASAP! Obviously you can find protein in a variety of different forms and I basically choose my protein based on the time of day and how busy I am. If I work out in the evening after class then I will usually have dinner after that which will contain a lot of protein. Steak and eggs is a really good source of protein and so that's a popular choice for me. But obviously I can't have that all the time, so I try to switch it up and think of alternatives. When I work out in the morning before class, I generally don't have time to sit down and have a real meal so I'll opt for a protein shake instead. I may share some of my favorite recipes for shakes in a later post. For now, just know that I'm using the Vanilla Whey Protein from Body Fortress. I like the taste but this is the first protein supplement that I've tried so I'm not married to it. I'm looking to try out some different brands when I'm done with this one. Let me know if you have any suggestions!
Anyway, this is Katya Elise aka. my new fitness inspiration. Y'all pray for me. It's gonna be a long road to get to where she is but I'm working on it. Anyway like I said, let me know if you have any fitness suggestions for me. I'm open to anything really: protein supplements, cool workouts, meal ideas, drinks for during workouts? I don't know. As always though, I will keep you all posted!

Monday, February 2, 2015

Home Barista: DIY Caramel Lattes

I decided sometime last year that my Starbucks addiction was getting expensive and out of hand. Well, it wasn't an addiction per se but I did drink it every day. To be honest I don't particularly care for the taste of Starbucks's coffee anymore so I needed an alternative. I bought my own espresso machine and decided to start making my own lattes and iced coffees at home. I realize that this may seem like a lot to some people but I knew that I could do it because I was a barista during college anyway. I know how to make my own drinks exactly the way that I like them and I figured I would share how I do some of my favorite drinks with you guys!