"Don't tell me what was said about me, tell me why they were so comfortable to say it to you."
As soon as I read that, I was instantly in agreement. There are so many people out there, that will claim to be on your side and pretend to always have your back. As we get older though, we need to realize that not everyone that claims to be our friend, is our friend. It's unfortunate, but it's true. We need to be able to sort the real from the fake. It doesn't mean that we necessarily have to be rude to people or treat them differently, but you need to know who you can and cannot count on. It isn't important if someone that you already know doesn't care for you, has awful things to say about you. You should expect it, this isn't news to you. It shouldn't be any of your concern if two, or five people that hate you, sit there and completely bash you all day. As a matter of fact, I'd probably be flattered. But it should alarm you, when any friend of yours is present when something like this is happening. I remember my dad always used to tell us when we were younger, "It's not your enemy that can hurt you, because you don't open the door for your enemies. You open the door for your friends."