I recently had this happen to me. Without going into too much detail, I will say that I received a text from a person I really care about ... a guy. Now, it's hard to explain without offering too much information, but I will try to as best I can:
I was supposed to meet up with him briefly for something. He replied that we would have to postpone. I assumed he was tired from working all day. He proceeded to tell me that actually he was not ... and then without my asking, told me his actual plans for the evening ... with another girl. He was pretty explicit.
First off, I was hurt by the information alone. I mean, he's free to do what he wants I suppose ... but this wasn't something I necessarily wanted to hear. He's a smart guy-- he knew that. He 100% knew that I never wanted to know that information. Which made me wonder: why did he say it? Maybe you guys can think of a million different reasons ... but the only one I could come up with is, he wanted to hurt me. I can't help but think that he wanted me to feel something when I read that message and he couldn't have intended for me to feel good. How could that make me feel anything but awful?
I mean, I'm not him ... I'm not in his mind, so I can't dissect why he would want to make me feel a certain way. I just know that the most important thing isn't what you say or how you say it ... it is always, always WHY.
So I'm opening the question up... please clarify this for me ... because I'm feeling beyond disrespected.